You’re most likely wondering how your level of self love is actually related to your current financial position. As like most people, it’s not a relationship you’ve really considered or thought much about before.
But let me tell you… it has everything to do with your current financial position and below I will show you why.
When things aren’t going the way you want in your life, your common response is to focus on the symptoms without actually considering what the root cause of those symptoms may be.
You go for the bandaid approach. When it comes to your finances this may involve reading all the books you can find on money to try and learn ways of creating financial freedom.
What is commonly ignored or not focussed on is what is actually going on within you.
To create financial freedom on your terms you need to combine both the inner and outer work of money. Despite how much you earn, how good your budget may be or the number of books on money you have read, you need to be willing to delve into the inner work.
If you’re not wiling to delve into self love and grow your self respect, self worth and awareness around your beliefs, thoughts and actions, you will likely not have the relationship with money you need to create the life you really desire.
To live a happy and fulfilling life you need to love yourself. Self love can be seen as an act of putting yourself first when it comes to how you spend your time, money and energy. It is prioritising you and your wellbeing by saying YES to you and NO to what isn’t serving you. That is the only way to get you what you want and to create the life you really desire.
There are various ways that a lack of self love can manifest in your life, such as:
- Over planning
- Over scheduling
- Not taking time for your priorities
- Not speaking up for yourself
- Shrinking yourself to fit in
- Comparing yourself or judging yourself
- Letting fear drive your choices
- Obsessing about things in your mind and what other people think of you
- Feeling unworthy and like a fraud
When it comes to your financial position, a lack of self love can show up in the following ways:
- Overspending
- Staying in debt
- Living beyond your means
- Unaware of your financial situation and your account balances
- Not charging what you’re worth
- Nil savings
- Going with the head in the sand approach and not opening your bills
- Not being open to receiving value from other people and therefore devalue yourself by telling yourself you’re not worthy of receiving the offers others provide to you
Now let me be clear – none of these ways will EVER get you what you want. Acting in these ways will only diminish your own light.
The reason you lack financial awareness is because deep within yourself you’re lacking self love, self worth and you’re devaluing yourself. You don’t actually feel worthy enough of taking the extra time and attention necessary to give your finances the attention they deserve. As a result, you easily find yourself in debt by not living within your means and continue to live your life without any financial integrity.
You may tell yourself that you lack financial awareness because you find numbers boring, you don’t know what to do or maybe you’re secretly waiting for your Prince Charming to come along and look after them for you. However in reality, the real reason is because you’re lacking self love.
You’re a smart, competent, high achiever and I have no doubt that in other situations in your life where you haven’t known something or something has scared you, you have still been able to find a way to figure it out.
Or if you haven’t been able to figure it out, you’ve been proactive and sought help from a coach or mentor to help you figure out what you need to do. As the thing is, you clearly understand and are aware of the importance of looking after your finances but yet you still haven’t done anything about it.
When you lack self love you don’t know your value and worth. You keep yourself playing small. You self sabotage yourself and you don’t really believe that you’re worthy of having the life you desire.
This plays out by you continuing to rack up debt, spending beyond your means and forever chasing your tail. Despite how hard you work and how much you earn, you never get ahead. And although this way of living makes you feel crap, you continue going down the same path and living this way. You continue to throw yourself under the bus and hold yourself back to play the small game.
But you don’t have to continue living this way. You have the power within you to acknowledge your current situation and change it because you know that you deserve better. That you are worthy of creating the life you really want and that what you have to offer is valuable.
Self love is the foundation for everything in our lives. If you don’t have a strong foundation in place, you’re not going to be able to build a strong structure on top of it…you’re not going to be able to create the life you really want.
If you’re lacking in financial awareness and find that you’re spending beyond your means, it’s time to start working on your inner game if you want to be in a position to create the lifestyle you love and financial freedom you desire. By addressing your lack of self love you will also address your financial problems.
From my own experiences and those of my clients it is clear, to create financial freedom and independence, you need to work on both the inner and outer work of wealth. You can have the best plans, structures and systems in place but if you don’t get the inner work right it isn’t going to happen.
You can start working on your inner game by…
- Becoming a detective and become aware of your thoughts and actions around money
- Taking a look at your money story and your money frustrations
- Looking at how you look after your money and your actions around it
- Making self love a priority in your life – each and every day.
Work on strengthening your sense of self and own who you are – all of you. When you start loving yourself, you then start to value yourself. You start prioritising you and your wellbeing. You start saying YES to you and NO to what no longer serves you.
When you own all of you, you find the courage within you to remove the masks you’ve been wearing to protect yourself. You show up as the real you. You are unique and special and the world needs to hear your message and you can’t do that if you’re only showing part of you, if you’re wearing masks and being someone you think you need to be you’re not giving value.
It is when you start using your voice, you start speaking up for yourself and you share your message. It’s when you truly believe that you are enough and what you have to give is valuable. When you show up as the real you you give value to others. In return, the world gives you value back by providing you with opportunities to help you create the lifestyle you love.
Connect with your internal self and start loving yourself. Use your voice and share your message. When you start living from this place and prioritise you and everything that is great for you whilst saying NO to what doesn’t serve you, you’ll start to see changes not only in your financial position but your life in general. Not only obtaining financial freedom but freedom to live life on your terms and most importantly freedom to be the real YOU.
Always remember your relationship with money is related to how you feel about yourself. It is when you combine the inner and outer work of money that you will create financial independence and freedom on your terms.
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